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Neuro Semantics

Weight Management and Fear

Is FEAR the reason for your being too heavy? In Marianne Williamson's book A Course in Weight Loss, referred to by Oprah Winfrey, releasing weight has more to do about releasing the burdens and fears that the weight represents, than about food itself. Is your weight like 'excess cargo' that you have been carrying around as a burden for far too long? What fears or thoughts underlie your weight or weight gain?

Would you honestly reflect on the following questions, and ask yourself:

  1. What am I ashamed of?
  2. What is the fear that binds me?
  3. What shame am I concealing/ignoring/holding down/covering up?
  4. What am I afraid of?
  5. What am I blaming myself for?
  6. What am I not doing, being or having by keeping this weight?
  7. What is the pay-off for being bigger?
  8. What do I fear in losing this weight?

Harbouring certain beliefs may cause you to store excess weight

The key to breaking this cycle is to teach sufferers how to change their automatic thought patterns that trigger the destructive bulimic behaviours.

In You Can Heal Your Life, Louise Hay stated that over many, many years of counseling very few people could actually hold a mirror up in front of them and look themselves in the eyes and say "I love you".

So many times in my own practice, when I hear women tell me what they are doing in their lives - working, looking after the home, children and sometimes elderly parents or a child with a challenging condition, and I say to them "you are doing a wonderful job", more often than not on hearing those words they start to choke up or cry.

Men too have had similar emotional responses, sometimes they have pushed their emotions down for years, surpressing feelings of not good enough.

How often do we give ourselves love and recognition?

The importance of self love in keeping a healthy weight is profound. Helping your subconscious mind to put you on the path to your ideal weight is facilitated by releasing past issues, negative beliefs about yourself and letting go of past upsets and hurts. This allows the door to self love, self recognition and self regard to open. Allowing loving confidence and unconditional love to flow.

Hating your body when it is fat and loving your body when you are slimmer is NOT unconditional love.

Negative self talk is damaging

The subconscious mind doesn't know the difference between a positive and negative. Example: "Don't think of a pink elephant", what do you immediately think of? When it hears "I'm Fat", "I hate the way I look", "I'm sick of myself" it fulfills the commands you send it. You get stuck in the yo-yo fat cycle.

Hypnosis and NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) helps you release fears, outdated unhelpful patterns of eating and to break free of negative self talk.

Acceptance of the person you really are, not your body shape, allows you to give yourself respect and begins the process of release. You begin an honourable and respectful relationship with yourself and your body. You invite your slimmer, healthier, more comfortable you to come forth. Your body never forgot how to be perfect, you were born with a perfect little body, you merely distorted its perfection because of fears, unhelpful emotional response patterns and lack of self love. There is no self blame here, we are always doing the best with what we have or know how.

Unhelpful and negative patterns can change. You are always changing, evolving. You are not the same person you were five, ten or fifteen years ago. The past is the past, a memory trace - perhaps it is 'time for me now', to give yourself all the love, recognition and regard your deeper self has been longing to hear. With these changes you feel a new-found confidence and belief in your increasing well being and self care.